PAYING FOR SEX.....

"I have never, and will never, pay for sex!" Has that sentence ever passed over your lips or into you ears from the mouth of a friend? I know that I have actually made that comment any number of times over the years. But what is "paying for sex" and when, if ever, is it "not really paying for sex"?

And you, my loyal readers, know that while I may have on occasion uttered that proclamation that I won't pay for what should always be free. You also know that for a good portion of my youth I was on the other end of that statement...being paid for sex, frequently and handsomely. I wish I was still making that kind of money today, and all tax free. 

Of course, that made it different. I was getting paid and the person doing the paying was a consenting adult with full knowledge of what was happening. And, while we would go to a hotel room or, very rarely an apartment or home, where we would engage in pretty much any sexual fantasy that that other person was wanting, shake hands and part ways (always get the money up front). Today things have changed.

I know that there are still face to face encounters either independently happening or brokered by a person who shares in the "take" when cash changes hands. But more often they are meetings between strangers online in some live sex show arrangement where the money is paid via tokens or coins through a corporate entity that takes up to 95% of every dollar exchanged (and still the money is always upfront). A bit more cold and less human perhaps but far less likely that an upset customer will smash in your face with a wine bottle like happened to me once.

So, is this "paying for sex". Well the person performing the "show" is exchanging an item (fantasy sex) with a customer wanting that item (fantasy sex) and is willing to pay a pre-negotiated price for its performance. That would make the performer a "sex worker" and the customer their "trick" so, in its simplest definition, yes, this is paying for sex.

Now, a few months ago, a commenter here suggested I investigate sites like Chaturbate, RealDudes, StripChat and such. Initially I was going to just view and not get involved in the goings on like the purchase of tokens and sending same tokens to a performer as a "tip", or in larger amounts, for the purchase of a specific act, often in private, and often resulting in an erection and an orgasm costing several hundred tokens or, based on the price of tokens, anywhere from 50 dollars to a few hundred.

And, yes, I have engaged in a number of those transactions. So, yes, I have paid for sex. But I can assure you that it is in no was as satisfying as the sex work that I once did where two individuals actually touched one another and got all messy together. And, while those prices are high for what you are actually getting; to watch another person masturbate, sometimes with "toys" and having an orgasm alone on a computer screen with no physical contact, no intimacy, no more than a virtual representation of what could be.

And, like so many things, I have begun to become less enchanted by the sex/sex act end of these events. I am still very much a voyeuristic participant in these sites but less and less a token spending participant. Often just because I have no tokens and no money to purchase them. But more and more often just an unwillingness to participate in a "sex act" that while beautiful to watch and sometimes entertaining leave me less than satisfied and usually even more alone feeling that before the "show" began. 

I am fortunate to have established friendships with several of the models on these sites and with whom I have ongoing friendship based conversations outside the confines of their corporate sex shops. And, while I am contemplating making significant changes in my use of the token exchange acts to be much more minimum in nature and almost never a multi-hundred token purchase, I am comfortable that my friendship with these models long ago moved beyond that area and into a relationship that is shared by two individuals.

So, yes, I have paid for sex (and may again). 

Now, after the Texas Ranger vs Cleveland Baseball game tonight I will present you with more on the ongoing saga of me and Mr. Cleveland tomorrow.